Katherine Angel

Avete presente Ti presento i miei, il film con Robert De Niro? Lui è Jack, ex agente della CIA. Sospettoso e maniacale, sta per incontrare l’aspirante sposo della figlia: è il padre maschio alfa in competizione con il nuovo ragazzo, convinto che nessuno sia all’altezza della sua bambina. La gelosia del padre, e l’ostilità nei confronti del suo “sostituto”, non sono in discussione; sappiamo già che le cose andranno male, grazie all’ammissione buttata lì incidentalmente che i padri fanno così. Ma niente di tutto questo ci disturba. Perché? È la domanda che Katherine Angel si pone con questo saggio audace e raffinato: è possibile affrancarsi dalla figura del padre, dalle nostre daddy issues? Attraverso fatti di cronaca, film, serie tv, psicanalisi e l’opera di autrici come Virginia Woolf, Bella di papà porta alla luce un problema finora relegato alla sfera privata: come il potere esercitato dai padri sulle figlie abbia pervaso, ubiquo ma invisibile, il nostro immaginario. Se dobbiamo liberarci dal patriarcato, allora è vitale cercare di rimettere i padri al loro posto. «Un saggio profondo e importante sul peso che la figura paterna da sempre esercita sulla vita di ogni donna.» Michela Marzano

A personal essay on the entanglement of fathers and feminism. Contemporary feminism has re-embraced thinking about the big ideas - patriarchy, capitalism, care. But contemporary concern about men tends to relate to the men in our lives other than our fathers: our partners, friends, colleagues, bosses - many of whom are also, of course, fathers. Discontent with fathers has increasingly been privatised within feminist discourse. Daddy issues have been relegated to the realm of personal problems individuals take to therapists. In this bold, daring essay Katherine Angel asks: what is the father daughter relationship today? How can it be understood politically? What political harms are done in the name of a father's love? Drawing on classic works by Virginia Woolf and Valerie Solanas along with more recent examples drawn from literature, film and TV, Angel examines how artists have conveyed the painful powers of the father in relation to the daughter.

Como señala la autora de este ensayo, en los últimos años se han establecido dos requisitos para el sexo satisfactorio: el consentimiento y el autoconocimiento. En lo que respecta a las mujeres, parece que, en nombre del empoderamiento y la libertad sexual, tengan que expresar con claridad y confianza sus preferencias y sus deseos. Esta circunstancia no hace sino cargarles con un gran peso: al presumir que saben exactamente lo que quieren y cómo expresarlo, se les hace responsables de que la experiencia sexual resulte satisfactoria. Y lo que es más grave: el consentimiento inicial puede ser usado como un permiso o justificación para ejercer violencia sobre ellas. Dividido en cuatro contundentes capítulos –«Sobre el consentimiento», «Sobre el deseo», «Sobre la excitación» y «Sobre la vulnerabilidad»–, este libro aborda de forma directa y minuciosa el complejo asunto de la sexualidad femenina. La psiquiatra y sexóloga Katherine Angel acude a diversas fuentes –la ciencia y la cultura popular, la literatura y la pornografía, así como los debates alrededor del #MeToo– con el propósito de cuestionar todas las suposiciones arraigadas sobre el deseo de las mujeres y destapar las debilidades de la retórica del consentimiento y el autoconocimiento. El sexo, según Angel, es un largo proceso de aprendizaje durante el cual se cometen numerosos errores: habrá que eludir las reglas de ayer y replantear nuestras expectativas actuales para que se cumpla la promesa que Michel Foucault formuló irónicamente en 1976: «Llegará el buen sexo mañana».

A provocative, elegantly written analysis of female desire, consent, and sexuality in the age of MeToo Women are in a bind. They are told that in the name of sexual consent and feminist empowerment, they must proclaim their desires clearly and confidently. Sex researchers tell us that women don't know what they want. And men are on hand to persuade women that what they want is, in fact, exactly what men want. In this environment, how can women possibly know what they want—and how can they be expected to? In this elegantly written, searching book Katherine Angel surveys medical and psychoanalytic understandings of female desire, from Freud to Kinsey to present-day science; MeToo-era debates over consent, assault, and feminism; and popular culture, TV, and film to challenge our assumptions about female desire. Why, she asks, do we expect desire to be easily understood? Why is there not space for the unsure, the tentative, the maybe, the let's just see? In contrast to the endless exhortation to know what we want, Angel proposes that sex can be a conversation, requiring insight, interaction, and mutual vulnerability—a shared collaboration into the unknown. In this crucial moment of renewed attention to violence and power, Angel urges that we remake our thinking about sex, pleasure, and autonomy without any illusions of perfect self-knowledge. Only then will we bring about Michel Foucault's sardonic promise, in 1976, that "tomorrow sex will be good again."

A provocative, elegantly written analysis of female desire, consent, and sexuality in the age of MeToo Women are in a bind. They are told that in the name of sexual consent and feminist empowerment, they must proclaim their desires clearly and confidently. Sex researchers tell us that women don't know what they want. And men are on hand to persuade women that what they want is, in fact, exactly what men want. In this environment, how can women possibly know what they want—and how can they be expected to? In this elegantly written, searching book Katherine Angel surveys medical and psychoanalytic understandings of female desire, from Freud to Kinsey to present-day science; MeToo-era debates over consent, assault, and feminism; and popular culture, TV, and film to challenge our assumptions about female desire. Why, she asks, do we expect desire to be easily understood? Why is there not space for the unsure, the tentative, the maybe, the let's just see? In contrast to the endless exhortation to know what we want, Angel proposes that sex can be a conversation, requiring insight, interaction, and mutual vulnerability—a shared collaboration into the unknown. In this crucial moment of renewed attention to violence and power, Angel urges that we remake our thinking about sex, pleasure, and autonomy without any illusions of perfect self-knowledge. Only then will we bring about Michel Foucault's sardonic promise, in 1976, that "tomorrow sex will be good again."

One of O Magazine's Must-Read Books for June 2013 A provocative and personal meditation on sex, power, and female desire Today's women, we're told, have more options in exercising their desire than ever before in history. And yet the way we talk about desire is virtually as constrained as it was for the Victorians. There's an essential paradox at the heart of female What we demand in our public lives is often in direct contrast to what we crave in our intimate lives. In the tradition of Susan Sontag and Virginia Woolf, Katherine Angel has forged a path through cliché, convention, and secrecy, and the result is Unmastered , a searching and idiosyncratic account of her studies in sex as an academic and of her experiences of sex as a woman. Unmastered isn't merely personal confession; it is also a powerful reckoning with our contradictory and deeply entrenched notions of sexuality. Angel embraces the highly charged oppositions―dominance versus submission, liberation versus dependence―and probes the porousness between masculine and feminine, thought and sensation, self and culture, power and pliancy, always reveling in the elusiveness of easy answers. With remarkable candor, Angel reflects on the history of her encounters and beliefs, and shows how our lives are shaped by the words we use and the stories we tell. The result is a revelatory book that examines and then explodes our most deeply rooted assumptions. Lyrical, brave, and sometimes disarmingly funny, Unmastered will start a thousand debates.