How can I enjoy my hot disabled body whilst dealing with internalised ableism? How can I best navigate my sex life with mobility issues or a carer? Why are queer spaces so inaccessible - and what can I do about it? Andrew Gurza is seriously hot. He's also seriously disabled. Having spent a lifetime navigating the bars, clubs and apps of the queer scene, he's learned a thing or two about sparking queer crip joy amidst the hellscape of ableism, microaggressions and 'pity sex'. With advice on everything from sexual autonomy and self-pleasure to date-prep and disability disclosure - this is both a self-care bible and an urgent call for the queer community to do better.