Love Is an Ex-Country

Love Is an Ex-Country

Randa Jarrar

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Queer. Muslim. Arab American. A proudly Fat woman. Randa Jarrar is all of these things. In this provocative memoir of a cross-country road trip, she explores how to claim joy in an unraveling and hostile America. Randa Jarrar is a fearless voice of dissent who has been called “politically incorrect” (Michelle Goldberg, The New York Times). As an American raised for a time in Egypt, and finding herself captivated by the story of a celebrated Egyptian belly dancer’s journey across the United States in the 1940s, she sets off from her home in California to her parents’ in Connecticut. Coloring this road trip are journeys abroad and recollections of a life lived with daring. Reclaiming her autonomy after a life of survival—domestic assault as a child, and later, as a wife; threats and doxxing after her viral tweet about Barbara Bush—Jarrar offers a bold look at domestic violence, single motherhood, and sexuality through the lens of the punished-yet-triumphant body. On the way, she schools a rest-stop racist, destroys Confederate flags in the desert, and visits the Chicago neighborhood where her immigrant parents first lived. Hailed as “one of the finest writers of her generation” (Laila Lalami), Jarrar delivers a euphoric and critical, funny and profound memoir that will speak to anyone who has felt erased, asserting: I am here. I am joyful.

Publication Year: 2021


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    Apr 02, 2025
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    May 13, 2025
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    as other viewers have noted, the book did not really match the summary. that being said, the book itself was truly captivating - equal parts gut wrenching and hilarious, i love the way Jarrar speaks so candidly + vividly. you really feel like you’re in the author’s mind, traveling back and forth on a road trip that is more emotional than physical. the unexpected ending left me ❤️‍🩹😭 and the chapter detailing her experience in israeli detention was heart wrenching. this book speaks plainly about topics that  many shy away from or simply refuse to understand about the decades long, us sanctioned israeli genocide of palestinians and the ongoing illegal israeli occupation of palestine. i will definitely be adding her novel to my TBR for a future read!

    as others have noted, major TW for many categories here! at times, the writing felt unnecessarily graphic hence 4.5 vs 5 for my rating. 

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