I think most women growing up in America in a semi religious community are familiar with the heaping serving of shame they force feed girls about our own sexuality, desire and value.

Why buy the cow when the milk is free? In sixth grade I had a teacher tell me a woman’s value is tied to her purity. No surprise then it took me years of therapy and introspection and READING to reframe how I viewed myself and my sexuality.

What are our choices then with this type of rhetoric built in to our childhood? We can try to come to grips with the ways we were raised and work HARD to eliminate the shame from inside of us or we hold on to the shame in tight fists and it becomes anger and judgement toward others. It becomes righteousness and a sense of superiority.

I’m not saying it’s ok, but I do understand how shame can twist us.

It’s just not fair sometimes.

Happy to report that what I thought was going on is nowhere close to what is actually going on.

What trickery!!

Jokes on you, author: I love being tricked.

The scariest thing in this book so far is the lengths we will go to make our fathers proud.