“the validation from strangers finding me attractive was quickly replaced by the disgust from strangers finding me attractive.”

honestly though!

the biggest takeaway ive had with dating apps was the validation from getting attention or “matches” wasn’t equal to the quality of conversation and not worth the disgust that followed from the realization from those who actually did get to the talking part with me were in fact attracted to me.

Now I was stuck doing mental gymnastics wanting to ask “why did you match with me” to feel less like an imposter and get back that undesired validation.