This book radically shifted the way I thought about love. I really believe this book could change the world. Required reading for all men who love women--but also required reading for anyone who loves or wants to walk an ethical path of love. Really incredible.

Pair this book with watching the tv series Avatar the Last Airbender - they compliment each other well

I feel like I didn’t walk away from this book learning anything really new. I think the chapters on honesty and simplicity were most impactful for me.

Used a lot of heteronormative language and biblical scriptures, which surprised me. Also, bell hooks quoting Marianna Williamson was unexpected.

As a bisexual I would have liked to read more about queer love. I am spiritual and believe in God so it was nice to be reminded of divine love and how I’d like to bring that back into my life as well.

No one should need me to add to the chorus of cries of bell hook's genius but I must add my voice to the heap. This book was scarily predictive considering it was written in 1999(?) and it came at the perfect time in my life as I've been thinking a lot about where romantic, familial, and platonic love fit in my life. Its a book I'll probably read more than once and return to often. My favorite sections in no particular order are the one about loving children, practicing a love ethic, friendship, and resisting power dynamics in romantic contexts. Everyone person should read this because none of us have been taught to love well.