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Game On (Into Darkness, #3)
Navessa Allen
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It has been six months since Iâve finished this book (and hasnât that flown by!), and I now realise that this book acted as a catalyst for my reflection into my dietary habits. Since reading, I have decided to become vegetarian (which is much easier than I thought it would be), and even thinking about eating meat makes me feel a bit ill. At the time I didnât look too deeply into my personal views, but it definitely encouraged some deep reflection!
Has anyone had similar reflections since reading? Iâd be interested in seeing if anyone elseâs opinion has changed!
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Dirty Laundry unpacks the experiences of an ADHD relationship with Rox and Rich, Rox as the âADHDerâ and Rich as the neurotypical. They describe how each symptom on the diagnostic criteria have affected Rox and its subsequent effect on Rich and their shared partnership.
If your partner has recently received an ADHD diagnosis this might be a good place to start. Note: It seems to me that Rox has the impulsive type of ADHD rather than inattentive (though she doesnât explicitly say), so thatâs something to bear in mind!
What the book does really well is a sense of kinship with Rox and the self-compassion that she displays is easily applicable and left me feeling supported with my ADHD experiences. How ADHD affects relationships is something Iâve not spent much time considering, but Richâs interpretation of Roxâs behaviour allowed me to understand a partnerâs experience and feel more compassion for their confusion with ADHD traits (not everyone has a brain working a mile a minute!).
However, while the book was helpful I did struggle with how surface level it felt, with much of its substance reliant on anecdotes that wonât always fit others experiences. That being said, Rox does give that disclaimer at the beginning of the book, so I canât fault it for being anything other than what she said it would be.
I did also struggle with the dual pov chapters that often felt very repetitive and leaned towards infantilisation of âADHDersâ (unintentionally). Rox made herself out to be incapable of having a happy life without Rich, and it was a co-dependent narrative I didnât find myself liking. It really feeds into the âthereâs a perfect person for everyoneâ spiel, and as much as I think itâs lovely she found such an understanding partner, I think it sets unrealistic expectations that may result in someone with ADHD not taking care to understand themselves fully since their partner will anyway. To me the most important thing with neurodivergence is self-compassion and understanding, and while the book does encourage those things, it appears to place them behind finding the right partner.
Criticisms aside, the book was certainly informative for partners, friends or even family members to those with ADHD. It set a good foundation of attentiveness that can be built upon with further reading. That being said, because of its level of anecdotes (and the extent to which ADHD presentation varies), I wouldnât use this as a sole source of information.
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Dirty Laundry: Why Adults with ADHD Are So Ashamed and What We Can Do to Help
Richard Pink
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Concrete Botany: The Ecology of Plants in the Age of Human Disturbance
Joey Santore
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a compilation of non-fiction books that talk about taboo topics relating to sex and relationships! topics covered thus far: kink, fetishism, polyamory, queer sex, consent, asexuality etc.
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The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures
Janet W. Hardy
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This Is Your Brain on Birth Control: The Surprising Science of Women, Hormones, and the Law of Unintended Consequences
Sarah E. Hill
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Small Talk: 10 ADHD lies and how to stop believing them
Richard Pink
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Dirty Laundry: Why Adults with ADHD Are So Ashamed and What We Can Do to Help
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Sweetbitter Song
Rosie Hewlett
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Dirty Laundry: Why Adults with ADHD Are So Ashamed and What We Can Do to Help
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The Beauty Myth: How Images of Beauty Are Used Against Women
Naomi Wolf
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Do you ever just... get an idea for a list and have only maybe one or two books to actually populate it with? Do you also just question whether it's a good idea/concept at all? And what about what emojis to use??? This is my dilemma for the day.
So, I have a proposition. Let's crowdsource from the amazing community we have here on Pagebound, mine our varied experience and exposure and work on some lists!
For mine, I kind of wanted to do one inspired by Magritte's This Is Not a Pipe and call it This Is Not a Story, which is apparently also a project by a French author. The idea was to have books that are frequently misunderstood. But all I have for it is Chuck Palahniuk's Fight Club. And also... aren't all books about something deeper than what the synopsis implies and is open to interpretation and thus the chance of being mistaken?
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Building a Second Brain: A Proven Method to Organize Your Digital Life and Unlock Your Creative Potential
Tiago Forte
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Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity in This Crisis (And the Next)
Dean Spade
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When We Lost Our Heads
Heather O'Neill