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lavendercola

26 y/o queer reader trying to learn more about myself and the world at large. (they/them)

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LGBTQ+ Sci-Fi & Fantasy
My Taste
Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex
A Psalm for the Wild-Built
Bi: The Hidden Culture, History, and Science of Bisexuality: The Hidden Culture, History, and Science of Bisexuality
The Pairing
Saga, Volume 1
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Song of My Softening
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Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World
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  • The Oddest Sea
    lavendercola
    Aug 13, 2026
    The Oddest Sea
    4.5
    Enjoyment: 5.0Quality: 4.0Characters: 4.0Plot: 5.0
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    Big thank you to the author for sending the file of this to me! I went into this without any expectations and was pleasantly surprised with both the writing style and the story itself. It had me captivated from the start. A twist on the siren/sailor myth that was equal parts weird and charming.

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    Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World

    Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World

    Cal Newport

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    Song of My Softening

    Song of My Softening

    Omotara James

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    No Fats, No Fems: A Guide to Queer Empathy and Unpacking Prejudice

    No Fats, No Fems: A Guide to Queer Empathy and Unpacking Prejudice

    Max Hovey

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    No Fats, No Fems: A Guide to Queer Empathy and Unpacking Prejudice

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  • No Fats, No Fems: A Guide to Queer Empathy and Unpacking Prejudice
    Thoughts from 36% (page 112)

    OKAY, maybe I'm being too nitpicky and sensitive about wording, but I physically cringed when reading "transgenderism" on page 112. Is this wording acceptable to non American trans folks?? I recognize that the author is UK based, so maybe the culture is different? I want to give the benefit of the doubt, but I've only ever heard this word used by either wildly transphobic folks or trans people making fun of transphobes. The author is cis but interviews trans people and claims to have trans friends, so you'd think he'd know better than to use outdated and offensive language. I wouldn't bat an eye if this book was published many years ago, but it was published this year!

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  • How to Make the Best Coffee at Home
    lavendercola
    Jul 21, 2026
    How to Make the Best Coffee at Home
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    This is a very helpful beginner's guide to brew coffee at home. I've been wanting to get away from using a Keurig for a while, but looking into the different options just seemed overwhelming. Hoffmann breaks down the pros and cons of different brewing methods in an accessible way that I really appreciated. The book did end rather abruptly after a section about how to clean coffee makers. Since there was an introduction I suppose I expected a conclusion also. I suppose not everyone would read it front to back like I did though, perhaps skipping around to sections that are most relevant to them. Regardless, a conclusion would have still been nice.

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    How to Make the Best Coffee at Home

    How to Make the Best Coffee at Home

    James Hoffmann

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    Jul 21, 2026
    Love, the Future
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    I appreciated Bartleson's honesty throughout this poetry collection. They explore heavy themes such as trauma, gender identity, and mental illness. At times I wished for more detail or explanation behind the poems, but perhaps that's just me being nosy

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  • How to Tell When We Will Die: On Pain, Disability, and Doom
    lavendercola
    Jul 18, 2026
    How to Tell When We Will Die: On Pain, Disability, and Doom
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    Through these deeply personal essays, Hedva often challenged my way of thinking in the best way possible. They wrote honestly about their experiences with disability, grief, trauma, etc. and it made me feel seen at times. At others, it expanded my knowledge and empathy surrounding the human experience as a whole. I borrowed this book from the library but am hoping to get my own copy of it sometime soon, as I think it would be a great one to reread and annotate.

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  • lavendercola completed their yearly reading goal of 20 books!

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    lavendercola's 2026 Reading Challenge

    23 of 20 read
    The Oddest Sea
    How to Make the Best Coffee at Home
    Love, the Future
    How to Tell When We Will Die: On Pain, Disability, and Doom
    The Princess and the Grilled Cheese Sandwich
    Bitter
    The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love
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    How to Tell When We Will Die: On Pain, Disability, and Doom

    How to Tell When We Will Die: On Pain, Disability, and Doom

    Johanna Hedva

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