there’s no way he doesn’t like me // 自我攻略
a list of men who convince themselves their love interests are in love with them, and thereby fall in love themselves. this phenomenon may or may not be due to overconfidence.
— “he doesn’t hate me, which means he likes me, and isn’t liking me the same as loving me, which is the same as being madly in love with me, which is the same as being unable to think of anyone else but me?”
created by ruiconteur
last updated February, 2026
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(stylised) quote from the ever-so-infamous ding hanbai 🤡 pls feel free to submit more recs i'm always up to clown on these men. also the joke in the title is that 自我攻略 / to conquer(?) oneself has the character 攻 gong in it
edit: initially this was going to be just focused on overconfident gongs, but i have since come to realise that there are way too few danmei novels with this trope on pb 💔
HELP that’s a quote from one of these guys???? Dkdmkdkskske
YES 😭😭😭 i keep hearing this one clip from the audiodrama (bc it's pretty popular) and every time i'm just 🤡🤡 i think they start out as rivals too??
HAHAHSHHDJAGDJSBD I CAAANTT 😭😭😭
oh is the trope specifically thinking the other is in love with them (in an egotistic way) and hence falling in love after that? :0
if it's broader than that specific sequence of events, then Mo Du might fit bc [SPOILERS]:
Fei Du tries hard to seduce Luo Wenzhou and keeps being overconfident that LWZ wouldn't be able to resist him (though FD was interested in LWZ first, for other reasons) (also spoiler but FD is not the gong HAHA)
yeah that was the trope i was initially going for but there are too few novels like that 😔
ooh that's pretty interesting!! it's kinda similar to weilan lmfao. i think i probs won't include it bc the prereq i've settled on for now is that the gong thinks the shou is already in love with him, and it's that shift of perspective that leads to him falling in love. ty tho!! 🫶
ooh ok that makes sense!! then Mo Du doesn't quite fit that trope then (also bc FD is not the gong lolol). it sounds like a very specific trope, I haven't seen that often so far 🤔
it's slightly more popular on chinese platforms bc of the pun potential! also bc a lot of the popular novels like that don't have official or complete tls i think
also lwz is the gong?? good luck fd 🙏
hmmm would after the disabled god of war became my concubine count? one of them overhears the other lying about being into him, takes it very seriously and starts developing feelings in return lmao
i'll take it! ty for the rec 🫶
ooh excellent list we love overconfident gongs 🤭 also I was thinking of reading Po Yun, have you read it? 👀
i haven't yet, but it's in my tbr plan for the year! i wanna get to tunhai (bc of taikang as usual) but i need to read poyun before that
ooh I didn't know taikang is in the tunhai audio drama 👀 more reasons to read poyun hehe
he plays wu yu! the poyun/tunhai ads are pretty popular bc huai shang had the final say on casting + the chemistry is apparently off the charts. for context, the cvs for the tunhai cp acted alongside each other again in the likewise very popular ad for a letter from keanu reeves, which you've probs seen me going completely feral about before 😂
I'M GONNA READ I SHIP MY ADVERSARY X ME FOR MARCH I'M SO EXCITED
OMG?? WAIT I MIGHT PUSH IT UP MY TBR THEN!! taikang plays the shou in the audio-drama and he sings this really memeable song in it so i've just been waiting for the right moment to listen to it 😂
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA that'd be fun if you're up for it!! and if you're free HAHAHA
it should be fine if i just listen to the audio-drama bc i can multitask while doing that :D just lmk when u wanna start!
honestly i've been itching to start it but I told myself to wait til it's actually march lmao i'm thinking this sunday tbh
sounds good! i might read a little slower at the start (i have an essay due wed 💔) but catching up should be easy bc i'm listening to the ad instead of reading hehe
