when addressing your lover by name or title is even more intimate than using a term of endearment
created by ruiconteur
last updated January, 2026
at the rate i'm going i'm gonna have 20 lists dedicated to china/chinese literature i swear. anyway recommendations are very welcome, and i'll be adding more as i read because it's surprisingly hard to find recs for this specific trope
It just hits different when they use their full government names for each other 🙂↕️
exactly you get me!! this is the main reason i exclusively read romance novels in chinese now
it’s kind of funny bc some ppl think calling others 连名带姓 is rude
yeah 😂 but i've def seen a trend in chinese media lately where ppl are like actually 喊全名 can be quite romantic. smth about how there are lots of ppl w the same surname/name but not necessarily as many w the same full name
me thinking about my two classmates named li jiawen in pri sch (male and female so we got a straight couple) and the three chen xinyi in hs we refer to by saying (the tall one the short one and unfortunately no one rmbs the third [medium] one)
those are the most basic names ever im so sorry 😭 also any variation of jun and jie for guys (jj lin im looking at you). thankfully the one thing i can say about my name is that i've never known anyone else to have it
i mean TRUE and i think that’s more of a SEA thing like mainlander names are p wild
this might be a weird stalker thing to do but i’ve been wondering about your name too like is it 瑞 or 睿
idt anyone has my name either but it’s not like a great or special one. also we need another place to talk about this instead of your list fjkskfmmd
yeah i've been seeing characters i never knew even existed in mainlander names lol
my rui is 蕊! hence why i said no one else has it 😂 except for my sister but that's bc my mum wanted matchy names
yeah we do but unfortunately there isn't rly anywhere else lmaoo
i love the matchy matchy names. i match with some of my cousins bc only child. and then my aunt calls me by their names.
anyway here’s a song for you 万千花蕊慈母悲哀
lmaoo i think it's just an older gen thing to mess up the names. we were supposed to have generation names but my mum hated the character for my generation so we ended up not using it oops
omg i've heard this song!! i think it went pretty viral on douyin at one point
she’s called me male cousin names before. 🫠
oh but didn’t know this was viral on douyin! my friend sang it during karaoke that’s how i get some of my song recs lmao. it’s just such an amazingly constructed song and so damn deep. my cantonese tongue can’t but goddamn do i try to sing it
oof 😔 yeah it was! i love the lyrics they're just so incredible. also that's how i feel trying to sing canto songs lmaoo
you’d think i’d do better there but no if i see the lyrics then my mando-canto brain will encounter a fatal clash
i can imagine LOL unfortunately i only speak mandarin so i've never personally experienced this skdsf