"'Engaging in debates is a waste of time. I repeat: engaging in debates is a waste of time. But more than a waste of time, it is psychologically taxing.' By refusing to enter debates set up in terms we would dispute, we take time back for ourselves to talk in our terms."

y'all!!!! i had to learn this the hard way but it's so true. the POINT of debating racism (or sexism or homophobia or transphobia or WHATEVER) is to exhaust those of us who are fighting for change. don't play the game. don't feed the trolls.