(In reference to Lolita’s books) “Ridiculous books”

“In two years or so she would cease being a nymphet and would turn into a young girl, then into a college girl. That horror of horrors.”

IM YELLING. And people wonder why I’m so staunchly for women being educated and especially pursuing further studies or at least something that furthers intellectual pursuits and freedom. Even if not through traditional college because I understand how that’s definitely out of reach for many. Abusers target those who they see as uneducated and specifically try and keep their victims uneducated!!! The way it’s dotted throughout and certainly one of the reasons HH is disgusted by grown women says volumes. He WANTS an uneducated girl that doesn’t know better and has less life experience and education than him. To have otherwise would mean that he actually has to treat his partner(s) as an equal human being in their own right and he can’t stand that. The narcissism is WILD but so sickening because I’ve seen this play out many-a-time before. I genuinely applaud Nabokov for being able to write such a deplorable abusive narcissist. It’s a hard read, but well crafted. 😭

WOMEN. If your man doesn’t support your education pursuits, RUN. Even if he cites financial reasons which while valid, still isn’t right if he doesn’t offer an alternative education option nor support any research into other options, RUN. The most healthy straight relationships I’ve seen have a man who supports their wife/girlfriend’s own path especially concerning education or furthering her career or just general self development and independence. And if a specific university’s cost is too high? He’s out here researching alternatives and helping her pursue her goals regardless of how some avenues are unattainable. Stay vigilant queens and don’t ever let a man knock your crown off. 💖

“…a cesspool of rotting monsters behind his slow, boyish smile.”

The way Nabokov writes HH as self infantilizing and describes himself as boyish raises the possibility of how HH uses that as a justification for being a pedophile…ugh this book is so disturbing, but so well written in terms of giving a thoroughly constructed view from someone who thinks in this way.

Even this early on, I’m blown away at how anyone could have read this and gone “this is romance” or even remotely romanticizing CSA, hello??? My only conclusion is that hardly anyone who is ‘in’ on the Lolita discourse has even read the book. This reads like a psychological horror novel where the reader is trapped with this depraved and disgusting protagonist who is preying on kids, who mind you, don’t know better or can’t process it! Very much a cautionary tale of abuse and specifically from the perspective of an abuser and how they justify or carry out their own abuses. How this got adapted into the pop culture view of “forbidden romance” between the movie and those book covers which Nabokov objected to is absolutely criminal and says so much about the people at the top who chose how to depict and interpret this book (glances at massive global corruption and specifically the Epistein files with most major political and entertainment industry figures)…hm.