I don't mean anything detailed in the guide, but things that people who don't pick up on social cues or unspoken rules (like myself sometimes) might be missing. I've been here for over a year and there are a few things I've felt unsure about.

One is that I'm noticing people declaring when they yoinked a book from another person. I'm not sure if it's considered rude not to do this (if we're expected to give credit to where we found it), or if I can yoink without saying anything.

The next thing is that I tend to upvote whenever someone responds to me, including if I simply said "congratulations" and they said "you're welcome". This is something I carried over from Reddit, where it seems to be etiquette in many communities to give upvotes like that, but I've been wondering if I'm annoying people, if they think I'm cluttering their notifications with an unnecessary upvote. I'm not sure because other people sometimes upvote me like that, but sometimes they don't. I wonder if this is etiquette that hasn't solidified yet.

Recently I saw some people saying that reviews are not the place to express disagreement, and that it should only happen in forum discussions. I personally haven't commented anything like that on reviews, but that's one that surprised me and made me wonder if that's a generally agreed upon etiquette rule or not. If I remember correctly, the person in question was being rude in terms of their content and tone, but it made me wonder if people consider it rude to bring any discussion to a review, even if it were done as politely as possible.

Has anyone else noticed etiquette that wouldn't be found in the guide? Does anyone have etiquette questions that they're pondering? Are these unspoken rules still in the process of forming?

(Btw please mention other potential unspoken rules that I didn't mention here, if there are any. I'm curious about things that I haven't thought about)

am i the only one who is not really vowed by this book?

OK, I'm a liiittle bit annoyed with Heyam's handling of the German language, continously misspelling German words that contain Umlaute, but now I need to jump in: While I get why in chapter 4, they don't want to use the words "gay" or "homosexual" in reference to Ulrichs' model, translating the "Schwules Museum" to "Queer Museum" is simply wrong. "Schwul" means "gay", as in homosexual men; it is very specific. And if you look at the museum's website, it is explained there that it was founded in the 1980s to display the history of gay men. Which is why I never went there. Other subgroups of the queer community, even lesbians, are too often overlooked and ignored in favour of homosexual men; I'm not interested in a museum all about them, thank you. Even though they today probably offer a wider variety of info, I think it's important to recognise the museum is still called "Schwules", and not renamed something more inclusive.