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This book has been foundational to my study of Torah and of many women in the Tanakh. At times, Gafney's translations or interpretations conflict with traditional translations; I don't think that this necessarily means that hers are invalid or inaccurate, but rather that the traditional ones might be lacking. For example, early on in this book, she asserts that there is no Biblical Hebrew word for "wife". This is true but technically a bit misleading, because in Biblical Hebrew, the word isha can mean either "woman" or "wife." Similarly, the word ish can mean either "man" or "husband." So there is no Biblical Hebrew word that exclusively means "wife," but there is technically a word for it.
However, despite the confusion that this technicality inspired in me, her main point in this section was to justify translating isha as "woman" in the context of Adam and Chava's union, despite it being traditionally translated as "wife." I think this translation decision on her part was not only accurate but deeply meaningful, and it enriched my connection to the original text. After all, the assumption that they must have been husband and wife rather than man and woman is rooted in the cultural norms of the translators, not necessarily the original intent of the text. By understanding Adam and Chava merely as man and woman, and stripping away our assumptions about them, we can get closer to the story itself and open so many doors for its interpretation.
This sort of clarity regarding the Torah characterizes Gafney's analysis of it, and it is incredibly enriching to read. Gafney also faces many of the hard topics which people attempt to ignore or downplay about these holy books—especially the subjugation of women and the pervasiveness of slavery. To be honest, I don't think that I would have been able to reconnect to the Torah at all without this kind of brutally honest examination which allows it to be flawed. I recommend this book wholeheartedly to anyone who is experiencing their own reckoning.
edit: this review was shared on StoryGraph in February 2025 and imported to PageBound on the date above.
anti-parent reading list
this is 🔗antiparent's "ultimate compilation of books about youth liberation, family abolition, social reproduction theory, education, and more." you can read along with 🔗the antiparent book club or explore these resources on your own time.
I have not included the books in antiparent's reformist/counterrevolutionary category, to prevent confusion.






PSA: the definition of relationship anarchy provided here is not accurate.
" One of the newer terms in the poly lexicon, relationship anarchy, refers to a lifestyle decision not to take one partner as a "primary" and others as "secondaries" (or any hierarchy of that kind) but instead to maintain each relationship as separate and to make as few rules as possible. "
It is true that relationship anarchy is a rejection of hierarchy, but it is not true that relationship anarchy entails keeping relationships "separate" or making "few" rules. It is not a form of polyamory. It is anarchy, the political philosophy, applied to interpersonal relationships: all of them, not just the romantic or sexual ones. It is not about minimizing rules, but reimagining our relationships to be about the mutual commitments, feelings, or desires that actually exist, instead of being about the commitments, feelings, or desires that we are pressured into or that we pressure others into.
🔗"The short instructional manifesto for relationship anarchy" by Andie Nordgren is a short and sweet starting point for learning about relationship anarchy, originally published in Swedish in 2006. Nordgren ran the website on which the term "relationship anarchy" in its current sense was coined.
🔗The 'relationship anarchy' tag on the anarchist library website also has some good resources for learning about relationship anarchy from the perspectives of some anarchists.
Neither of these resources are representative of "relationship anarchy" as a whole, which would be quite difficult to thoroughly represent in one post. But I think they are an easy jumping-off point that might be of interest to anyone reading this book. If anyone has any other suggestions for readings on relationship anarchy, please feel free to comment!

i am aware most people are not as into spreadsheets as i am, but if anyone is interested in it (or just likes making things as structured as possible), i'm sharing my rating spreadsheet below
this is what i actually use to rate most books (i don't use it always, specially with older / classic books, because i think the categories don't quite reflect what's actually relevant in classics). overall, though, it really helps me organize my feelings and think of an evaluation that better reflects my opinion on each book
it's super simple: there's 5 categories, each worth 1 star. every category has then 3 possible ratings: zero, half, and 1 whole star. just check whichever option makes more sense and the spreadsheet adds up the numbers automatically ❤️ and provides you with the final rating in the bottom ❤️ magic. seriously, how can people not appreciate the beauty of spreadsheets? /j
i came up with the qualitative descriptions to help assign a rating to each category, but if you want to use this template, you can write them however you'd like, of course. i mostly wrote what made sense to me. use it however you want!
🔗 my book rating spreadsheet - view only | 🔗 my book rating spreadsheet - make a copy
it has two different color options in case you have beef with green+pink. to edit the template, make a copy :)
and follow me for more oddly specific sheet(s) 😘 lol


mermaidadjacent commented...
Many of my favorites have already been mentioned in this thread (or shared in one of the lists here), so I'd like to share about a particular author whose work has been incredibly influential on my life but who I rarely hear others talk about.
Transformative justice and restorative justice (TJ/RJ) have exploded in popularity in the last few years. Nowadays, it is not uncommon for me to hear other anarchists in certain circles speak as if it is a foregone conclusion that TJ/RJ is the whole of "anarchist justice." Virtually every single book or article or resource that I have been recommended myself or seen recommended online on the topic of radical or anarchist justice has been a TJ/RJ text. In my life, I have repeatedly seen TJ/RJ lingo and practices be used to silence victims/survivors, rehabilitate abusers' and rapists' reputations, and maintain the status quo.
Destroy What Destroys You is an essay collection by Lee Cicuta that explores an alternative anarchic vision of intimate authoritarianism, also known as intimate partner violence (IPV), domestic violence (DV), or abuse. Her framework asserts that these forms of violence are not merely violence; they are authoritarianism itself, expressions of the forces of domination and oppression that anarchists define ourselves in opposition to. She examines how liberal non-violence propaganda has played a role in watering down both abolitionism and anti-authoritarianism; how common myths and even bystander questions about abuse reinforce the cultural staying power of intimate authoritarianism; and how intimate authoritarianism is supported by and reproduces all other forms of authoritarianism. I found each of her essays to be clear, compelling, and personally moving.
If you'd like to give her a read, you can download Destroy What Destroys You for free at this link.
Hello! I'm looking for book recommendations focused on Anarchism, Anarcho-Communism, Anarcho-Syndicalism etcetc. Both well known literature and obscure niche favs. Fiction or non-fiction. I just want to find out how Anarchists think/dream/imagine their future, since it is the Ideology I know the least about. Preferably with a positive portrayal, as everything I know about Anarchism thus far is conservative propaganda.
Thanks!


mermaidadjacent commented...
In case anyone in this comment section needs help finding an alternative, 🔗Calibre is a free and open source app for managing your ebook library on your own device. I use it every day and highly recommend it! And I am happy to help if anyone has any questions or difficulties getting it installed or using it.
If you've already purchased books from Amazon that you would prefer to read or annotate privately, you can use 🔗this guide to transfer your books from Kindle to Calibre.
If you don't want to switch to a new program but still want to take steps to protect your privacy, it is also possible to poison the data that they are collecting about you. At the end of the day, they do not know you personally and have next-to-no means of verifying the data that they collect. Whether you annotate copyright pages with lies about yourself or manually update Amazon's data on you to be inaccurate (see the links shared by @aoitsuki), you can weaken the utility of their surveillance and waste the money they spent to monitor you.
After a friend sent me a screenshot of her Amazon "About Me" section - I was curious about mine. We aren't the biggest Amazon users, but we do have an account and I use the Kindle app on my iPad to read ARCs from NetGalley. Under my "Interest & Hobbies" Amazon says: "Has surface-level familiarity with Meiji era and samurai rebellion history" -> A claim I would never make for myself and was a bit baffled by it (also... how is it relevant to my shopping habits??).
Then I remembered that I read an ARC about samurais during the time I was switching my note taking platforms, so I put some of my notes about the ARC directly into the Kindle App as I read so I wouldn't risk lose them. Ironically, I vaguely remember this note and it was something I wanted to look up after reading because I don't know much at all about the Meiji era or samurais in general. (Yay for confusing Amazon I guess?)
I don't have an actual Kindle so no idea if it's just the app that they are scanning and tracking your reading notes, but figured I would share the PSA. It's something I should have figured, but since it was an ARC sent to my Kindle App and not purchased through Amazon I hadn't even considered it.
Maybe this is super common knowledge, but I had no idea!
mermaidadjacent commented...
Thank you so much for sharing this! It's so cute and so helpful. I did notice that when I downloaded it as an .ods file, the check-mark feature broke, because Google Sheets and Libre Office use different logic to handle check-marks. I edited it to work natively in Libre Office and added some pages for nonfiction ratings (since I read a lot of nonfiction lol), and I figured I'd share it here in case any other Libre Office users would like to use it without having to sink a couple of hours into Calc!
🔗 Here is a link to a cryptpad.fr page where you can download the .ods file.
🔗 And here is a guide to Libre Office check-boxes, in case anyone ends up wanting to move the check-boxes around or anything.