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RATING (BASED ON PERSONAL SCALE): 4.00/5 â A great book Iâd happily revisit or re-read, with only tiny things keeping it from perfection. â Character impact wasnât applicable here.
MY TAKE: MY BRAIN HAS SUBTITLES, APPARENTLY đ
THOUGHTS & FEELS: Welp, I actually finished this book a while ago, but I didnât want to mark it as read until my husband finished it too. I wanted us both to get through it in case there were sections we needed to come back to and talk about together.
As someone who was recently diagnosed with AuDHD, this was recommended by our couples counselor as a way for my husband to better understand how my brain works. Because hereâs the thing, weâre actively talking, weâre speaking the same language, we love each other, and weâre in a happy marriage... but that doesnât automatically mean weâre communicating in the best possible way.
Sometimes I need something communicated differently. Sometimes I need more time to process before responding. Sometimes what someone means isnât necessarily what my brain hears. This book helped us recognize those differences without automatically assuming either person was doing something wrong.
More than anything, it helped me feel seen and better understood. It didnât just give my husband more context for how my brain processes things, it gave me language for experiences I havenât always known how to explain.
Between couples counseling, this book, and both of us actively working on our communication, I think weâve gotten much better at meeting each other where we are. And honestly, thereâs no shame in being in a happy marriage and still needing some help. Sometimes getting help is how you make something good even better.
The only thing keeping this from five stars is that AuDHD can look so different from person to person that not everything applied to me, and some of the advice works better as a starting point than a one-size-fits-all answer. This isnât an instruction manual for understanding every AuDHD person, itâs a tool for starting better conversations with the actual person you love.
BOTTOM LINE: Iâd highly recommend this to partners, family, or friends who want to better understand someone with AuDHD. For us, it wasnât about fixing our relationship, it was about understanding each other better, communicating more intentionally, and giving ourselves another language for the moments when my brain apparently needs subtitles. đ
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Weâre officially having our very first Love in the Big City buddy read! đď¸đ
For September, weâll be reading Itâs Different This Time by Joss Richard, a fall romance about two former roommates unexpectedly brought back together in their beloved New York City brownstone. đŠâđłđđ˝
September will be here before we know it, so add it to your TBR and place those Libby holds now if you need to!
Whoâs joining us for a little fall-in-New-York yearning? đđď¸