chris commented on Morggs22's review of Between Two Fires
Well it definitely was a book…definitely one written by a man….
Can we maybe not describe a teenage girls breasts? Or maybe not have so many rape attempts thrown her way? Can we maybe not have her see “the good” in irredeemable men? I hated everything about this, the crudeness, the plot, the writing, the pacing, and the characters.
This book lies between the two fires of my chronic heartburn and active fiery diarrhea.
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Spineless: The Science of Jellyfish and the Art of Growing a Backbone
Juli Berwald
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After Hours at Dooryard Books
Cat Sebastian
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chris commented on a post from the Pagebound Club forum
TL;DR - How do you guys feel about authors writing about social issues that do not affect them, but affect oppressed groups they do not belong to?
Personally, I don't think there's an issue with someone writing a character that doesn't reflect perfectly the author's own identity or personal experiences. That's what writing, and especially writing fiction, is. But my hackles will always rise when people write from a position of privilege on something that specifically does not/cannot affect them but affects a minority/oppressed group. When the author doesn't/can't have a personal understanding of this experience but they seek to profit from that experience and that story nonetheless.
The reason I'm thinking about this right now is I have a couple of Nat Cassidy books on my TBR, and I'm gonna be real, I thought this was a female writer. It's quite an ambiguous name and I was not previously familiar with his work. Now I know it's a cis man writing about some really thorny female-specific/woman-specific experiences* (and not just tangentially - from what I understand, these experiences form the heart, the engine of these narratives) from the perspective of female characters... yeah I'm side eyeing this a bit.
To be clear, I'm not saying this is outright wrong or somehow immoral or that stories should never be told unless they're told by someone who has directly experienced them or been impacted by the themes they deal with. I think that's a little silly.
But I do think if we are intending to write marginalised experiences we need to ask, why am I telling this story and why do I think my voice was the necessary one to do so? Why is my perspective the one that should be published? Am I benefitting from systemic harms done to others and leveraging my position of privilege to amplify my own voice rather than theirs?
Specific to my example, I have read good things about Cassidy's work, but I feel like maybe there are more appropriate voices to tell these stories that I should be supporting instead. I don't know. What are your thoughts?
[potential spoiler warning for Cassidy's novels below, but not really because I haven't read them]
*From what I have been told, Cassidy has written novels about menopause, medical gaslighting, motherhood and traumatic labour, and the horrific ways in which female people and female bodies suffer these experiences under patriarchal conditions.
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Heather Fawcett
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The Loom Tree
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chris commented on Yazii's review of Refusing Compulsory Sexuality: A Black Asexual Lens on Our Sex-Obsessed Culture
This was such an interesting and important read. This truly made me realize that I still have work to do to unpack viewing internalized sexuality as an expectation tied to value, intimacy, and humanity’s expectations (and that’s ok, I’m learning, growing, and striving for a decolonized mindset and that work doesn’t end). The author's unflinching reflections on compulsory sexuality shined a light on how deeply western culture conditions us to see desire and partnership as universal milestones rather than experiences that exist on a wide and complex spectrum, not a binary. I found myself reflecting about how often we confuse closeness with romantic or sexual validation, and how limiting that framework can be for building genuine connection and community. The book was incredibly illuminating in the way it connected these personal experiences to larger systems of patriarchy, racism, ableism, fat phobia, anti blackness, capitalism, and social control without ever losing its tenderness. It also broadened my understanding of how asexual people had historically been demonized by heterosexuals as well as by many in the LGBTQIA+ community and how awareness and acceptance is mandatory for collective liberation. By the end, I felt like it had given me language for things I had sensed for a long time but never fully knew how to articulate, as well as new understanding for ace individuals. I’m so appreciative for this wonderful recommendation from @crybabybea.
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