ooo have you read mexican gothic? definitely fits this theme

Crescent moon tearoom also fits! Love this!

Man, F*** This House by Brian Asman fits this and it’s also pretty funny!

A study in drowning also fits this theme!

i didnt realize how much i love a sentient home until i saw this list - some of my favorite books are here!

have you read a discovery of witches by deborah harkness? i think you would that home! 💗🏠

While less explicit than these recs, the safekeep fits here too

It's few books into a series but A Court of Silver Flames has one too

A House of Many Ways would fit great! It's set in the same world as Howl's Moving Castle. A woman is house sitting her Great Uncle's enchanted home :)